Firstly, I would like to apologize for not posting as frequently, exams got in the way. But now I’m back. Secondly, have you ever wondered where the “New year, new you” phrase came from and why it is still used today? Earlier this year, I was speaking to a very close friend and I asked “Are you on the new year, new you kind of vibes?” and they replied, saying “No, New year, same me”. I laughed, but actually it makes sense. Many individuals try their best during the month of January to contact, talk to or catch up with those who they haven’t heard from, spoken to or lost contact. This is perfectly fine, we are humans we tend to forget or just use social media to “stalk” the lives of others. There is nothing wrong with catching up, but using the phrase “New year, new me” is a trendy term that fades after the end of the month of January.
Today, is the last day of January exciting right?! I believe that there is nothing wrong with wanting to change and show that you care about others. However, just because it’s the New year and the first month of the year, does not necessarily mean your actions are just. At times, after February we end up not contacting the individual and the cycle starts over again. Honestly, one ends up deceiving themselves. If we try our best to keep in touch and the other individual tends to ignore our messages, then what happens? I have personally had this happen to me before and honestly it can be frustrating because it is something you can’t control but you can act and do something about it. Two options: 1) end all communication with the individual or 2) kindly have a conversation with the individual . Note: option 1 should be the last resort.
Sometimes you give people chances and you start asking yourself, “when is enough enough?” I have learnt to take a step back, re-evaluate and then act. There is no point acting out of anger or frustration. Give yourself a break, breath, relax!! Go watch Netflix and chill!!!! The truth is that we all make mistakes and have the ability to make things right, regardless of excuses. I learnt in high school in South Africa that there is a difference between I’m sorry and I apologize. I’m sorry is a short-term way of getting an individual to forgive you but means there’s a likely chance of them doing it again. I apologize means that the individual is acknowledging an offence. We should all strive to be the best we can be, not because of external pressure but because we want to!
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